Unfortunately parenting does not come with a manual, which means that most of us just try our best and perhaps pray a lot! Our aim as parents is to help our children become morally responsible and independent adults. The purpose of parenting is to be a guiding hand assisting the child on their road to adulthood.
But while nurturing is a natural instinct in most mothers, managing a child is not instinctive and this is where the problem begins. If we over nurture we tend to over-protect, over-control, and/or over-indulge. Over the last few years I have been able to share some amazing and practical insights into “unleashing your children’s ‘potential’ with parents and teachers that has made a significant difference to their children’s development
My approach has been described as revolutionary, in that it is simple and practical and can often achieve overnight positive results. It is a unique, common sense approach to parenting that transcends all religions and cultures. Virtually all evidence-based parenting programmes that have been well researched are based on assessing the child and helping parents deal with their child’s behaviour. The Smart Choice Parenting Programme (SCPP) is based on the educative role of the parent in guiding the child to adulthood. In other words, the parent should be the primary educator in guiding their children to adulthood.
The behaviour of the boys is amazing. We have observed a hunger to learn and do things betterChip Sawyer
My husband and I read your manual yesterday and started using some of the points related to tantrums and have already seem a marked improvement in our little boys behaviourDominique Klar
I know that by using your techniques at school and at home it will lead to a better behaved, well mannered and well balanced childFrederigo Witkowski
Concentration levels – she received an achievement award for maths and reading last term which is proof that she is really overcoming this problem and working hardJesselyn Estrella
I have moved my classes from simply teaching to a warm style of parenting. In the process feel more in touch with my classes. No one falls through the cracks.Baillie Fraenkel
Since your workshop, I have not smacked my boys once – regular hidings to keep them in check are a thing of the past. I also shout FAR less than I ever did before – and now when I DO have to shout – it makes them jump and, boy, do they listen!! Before I started Kensway – I was shouting daily and my “shouty” voice was just ignored!Nicky Dabrowski
We started implementing the plan of action yesterday, and WOW I’m already seeing the results after one day! I must admit I was very hesitant in the beginning but I now realise how Matthew had made a hook of being scared all the time, and playing on it. I told him it’s fine I will following him to the toilet, but then he’s choosing to act like a baby, as only babies expected that (and I acted very confused), I also went on to say I will get all his baby toys out and his baby blanket, which I did, and BOY DID HE NOT LIKE THAT! This morning he was speaking out of habit and called me, then paused and stopped himself and went “oh never mind” and went to the toilet on his own.Belinda Ciotti
So far our family is really benefitting from Kensway and Jonathan is really
thriving under the new “regime”. His fears have calmed down a lot and although they haven’t disappeared, he does seem better able to use his frontal lobe and control his fears. Jonathan has responded very well to the extra responsibility too–he’s loving the pocket money for chores, the shop and getting that half hour of tv for good behaviour. The dramatic improvement is that he will now go anywhere in the house by himself, including the back bedroom (spareroom), which was unthinkable before Kensway.Astrix Manzi
I have been a little apprehensive to write this email to you as I don’t want to jinx our much improved situation at home! We have had a wonderful, happy holiday with our family and Adam has been a star. He seems to have turned a corner and has become the child we’ve been waiting for for so long! He’s polite, more easy-going, helpful, cooperative, calmer and his attitude has improved significantly. He seems to have realised the benefits of behaving well and towing the line and I think he appreciates the happier and less stressed home life.Carla Oettinger
Then the help I needed! I was fortunate enough to attend a talk at Herschel and a follow up workshop with Ken Resnick, an Educational Psychologist, a couple of months ago. He equipped me with tools that were immediately effective and easily applied. I encouraged my husband to join me in the hope that Ken would enlighten us as to how to close the gap between our very different ways of discipline. After the 3 hour workshop we felt affirmed as parents. There were also a few tools that I was dying to test out on my very challenging 6 year old and could not wait for the next morning for him to wake up. I was blown away- the tools that I selected that I felt were appropriate for our family, worked and have done so ever since. The calm in my home has been restored and my credibility as a parent, regained.Tamar Isenstein
The effect of SmartParenting in our household has been dramatic, fast and painless. Whereas we often had war and crazy behaviors, there is now peace. The tension and frustration has all but disappeared and we (as parents) are far more in control of the daily running of the house (and I mean than in the last three years). Peace has finally entered the household. My husband and I don’t argue about the kids anymore. We are no longer on the edge of divorce but are re-finding each other as friends.Martyn Nunoshiba
I trust this message finds you well! For all of you who have kids (one or more) I think you could all benefit from this parenting workshop, I recently attended. It’s absolutely fantastic, for ironing out those little things which drive us nuts about our children, as well as avoiding those very ‘little’ things turning into “big” social issues, with kids turning into teenagers, and so forth. Regardless of whether you think you may have a potential issue or not, we can all benefit from a useful, practical guide to parenting, especially since, there are none out there, which work for everyone & all children alike. The results are instant & beneficial to all in the family. Kids & parents are all less stressed, afterwards & the communication lines are always open. Plus there is a follow-up session after two weeks, to ensure we as parents, have mastered it or need more advice. This program is amazing for both parents, as well as single parents. I ask that you please forward this to all whom, you may think could benefit from this workshop, especially schools, crèche’s, nursery schools, friends, colleges in your area. For Grandparents, teachers & care-givers, the results are awesome when all work together.Shirline Planansky
Thank you so much for your wonderful program. We have successfully implemented it in our school. My teachers are very happy with the change we see in the children with in 24hrs after starting the program and with children as young as 3 years of age. The difference with your program is that it enables the parents and teachers to work together towards the same goal. The previous methods resulted in irate parents accusing our teachers of “picking” on them. The teachers blamed the parents for not having discipline at home. The children of course very cleverly played the parents up against the teachers.Arther Steinfeld
Harking back to our ancestors, it was the parents who taught their children survive and explore their world. The Khoisan tribe of the Kalahari are a living example where the parents guide and ensure that their children are able to survive by teaching them how to survive, how to become aware of dangers, knowing what plants to eat and so on. I doubt very much whether you will find a Khoisan child who has ADHD (Attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder) or suffers from a host of other behavioural and learning disorders that far too many children in the modern world are being diagnosed with.
The pressures on parents and children these days can be immense, coping with ever-changing, frightening world of technology, social pressures and all the pitfalls this can bring. Expectations on young people and the many challenges that life throws at them and us as parents and educators along the way can be overwhelming. However, preparing our children for life and enjoying our parenting is achievable.
The SCPP is an effective and simple approach which encourages children from an early age to take responsibility for making the right choices, solving their own problems, building confidence and hunger to do well. The principle of the approach supports and prepares children to become independent, by introducing structures and concepts which are “microcosms’ of the wider world”
Parents will have a clearer understanding of how to stay empowered while at the same time empowering their child. They will be given practical skills which are common sense and easy to implement and which enables the child to own their own problem. Parents are shown how to stay in control and as a result the house calms down, children become more cooperative and more responsible.
The SCPP gives parents the skills to cope with virtually the full range of real-life problems presented by children: including temper tantrums, refusing to dress themselves, not wanting to brush teeth, refusing to share, refusal to eat as well as a range of other behaviour and academic issues.The SCPP approach has proven very effective when dealing with children with conditions such as ADHD, Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD), Encopresis (soiling), Enuresis (bedwetting) and Selected Mutism.