There is a ‘gap’ in the multi-disciplinary approach used in assessing children. This ‘gap’ is the lack of knowledge required to help parents improve the quality of their parenting. Of all the preventive interventions arising from assessments, none are more important than the quality of parenting children experience and yet parenting intervention is rarely, if ever given as a recommendation. The Kensway assessments always include parenting intervention as one of the recommendations.

Have you ever given a thought to the fact that learning and reading is a choice that children make. Why is it that so many children choose not to read and choose not to learn? Every child is born with the passion to take on life. What goes wrong?

We read how the sedentary lives that so many children lead is leading to obesity, passivity, laziness, lack of motivation, poor attitude and underachievement. Parents are at a loss in knowing how to deal with this problem although they are the ones that are allowing their children to develop this unhealthy lifestyle. Find out how to address this. Buy my book ‘Parenting Decoded – Disciplining Kids in the Digital Age’ by logging on to www.smartchoiceparenting.co.za.

The increasing number of children that are in disharmony with their adult educators is growing at an alarming rate worldwide. The purpose of educating and parenting children rests on the shoulders of the adult who should be guiding these children along the road to adulthood. Why are the adults losing control?

Sibling rivalry is a perception that siblings have where they believe that their parents are not being fair. Parents often believe that they treat all their children the same. On closer analysis this is not the case. So, how do we parent fairly and consistently. Find out more.

Difficult teenagers are often sent for therapy by desperate parents who are at a loss in knowing how to deal with these troubled adolescents. Teenagers do not enjoy therapy as they’ve usually lost their trust in the adult authority figure. You can’t resolve problems with difficult teens without the involvement of the parents. Find out how to deal with your difficult teenager.

Are you aware that many parents are raising kids who are learning to become helpless? Children are given the impression that they don’t have to pay attention in class as when they get home someone will be there to help them. There are far too many learners having extra-lessons and who have chosen to opt out of anything that they don’t enjoy and what might be seen as a challenge. This includes their schoolwork. Why?

Children with high self-esteem achieve, but what is self-esteem? Dependent children who are scared to take challenges, lack perseverance and motivation have low self-esteem. Children who underperform and /or fail have low self-esteem. Children in remedial classes have low self-esteem. Often, instead of helping and encouraging children to stand on their own two feet, they are given the impression that it’s ok to give up as there will always be someone there to help them. So, what is the answer?

Have you ever given thought to the fact that all learners who drop out of school, get involved with anti-social activities such as promiscuous behaviour, alcohol and drugs have low self-esteem. They weren’t born with low self-esteem, so what goes wrong?

Medication does seem to be the answer in helping many learners concentrate better at school but does it help build their self-esteem? The short answer is no. What is missing?

ASK DR KEN RESNICK